A Traveling Fur-Mommy’s Nightmare

Today I was going to write a blog on some travel tips to keep you healthy on your work trips, but I couldn’t get my mind off of another event happening in my life. It is a bit of a venting session, so reader beware. As you all know, I have a 2 year old Corgi, Thor. She is the love of my life and I treat her as my own child. Unfortunately, there is a horrible back story to her, and I feel writing about it is the only way to help my mind move on today.

December 23,2014 my ex boyfriend and I purchased Thor and took her home as our Christmas puppy. At the time of her purchase, my ex and I lived together, had our lives together with my cat Loki, and Thor was the completion of our family. Six months after Thor became a part of our family, my ex-boyfriend and I ended our relationship while I was on a business trip in Denver. Still in Denver, we discussed what we were going to do with the pets when I arrive home, and we both decided I would take them. The moment I touched down in San Antonio from a long awaited flight from Denver, I packed up my things, moved myself and the pets out, and started our new lives together.

It did not take us long to get on our feet and enjoy life in our own place away from the misery we dealt with for months awaiting an end to a toxic relationship. Thor, Loki and I were happy. Originally, the ex and I agreed we would stay on good terms and he would watch the pets when I travel. We did this for a few months, and it worked out. In January this year (2016), he texted me one night asking to have Thor back. He said he was lonely, missed me and the only thing that could make him happy was Thor. Sure, I felt bad for the guy that broke up with me via text message on a business trip, but I was not about to give up my dog to this man/boy who couldn’t even take care of himself when we were together. After a long two day argument, he went radio silent after telling me I would regret not letting him have Thor.

February 2016 I find a letter in my mailbox from an attorney that he has hired telling me the dog is legally his and if I do not give her to him by a certain date, he will sue me for the rights of my dog as well as all attorney fees. I kindly wrote back telling his attorney the dog is not his, he gave her to me when we moved out, the bill of sale is in my name and to shove this letter somewhere not so bright. A few weeks later I am served with papers and this is a full on law suit. I hire an attorney, we counter sue for him stalking me (because he started doing that), harassment and a frivolous law suit.

Since the time of hiring an attorney, we have gone back and forth back and forth trying to resolve this without going to court. We did mediation, which was the biggest waste of time and money, I offered to pay him for Thor, he offered to pay me for Thor and now here we are. Today I found out our official trial date is finally set and the end is near. December 1,2016 will be the deciding factor on if the love of my life, my fur baby will still live with me, or if I will have to say my farewells knowing she will not be cared for. I have waited for this day for almost a year, and now that and end is in sight I am feeling a little uneasy. This year has been a difficult year for me. Dealing with this issue since January has taken a toll on my mental, spiritual and physical health. I have never felt so deceived and honestly cannot believe a human being could put another human being through this torture. He made his decision to break the family apart and he made the decision to let us go on without him. We are much better without him in our physical lives, but the stress of having to watch over your shoulder everywhere you go in fear he is watching or the stress of him taking away a family member and never seeing her again is horrifying and frankly unforgivable. I pray my heavy heart after all of this is said and done can find away to forgive the selfish and manipulative actions he has put me through.

I feel I have done everything I can in my power to keep Thor and for the lawsuit to turn in my favor. I have fought harder for her than I have fought for anything in my life. The biggest heartbreak of it all is when we go to court, they will not look at Thor as a pet, as a companion or as a living breathing thing. She is property and that is all it comes down to. I feel I have the rights and I rightfully own Thor, however the legal system can be very tricky and I fear the worst. I ask any of you reading this, if you are the praying type of person or spiritual person, think of me over the course of the next few weeks. I know that Thor will thrive in her current home with her brother, she will live the happiest of lives and I don’t want it any other way.